I Was Your Sunshine Dad, Do You Remember. Living With Alzheimer’s.

I was always daddy’s girl.  To this day I still can’t cook very well, because instead of helping my mum in the kitchen like other girls did, I would follow my dad around.  I would go into his workshop and ask what all the tools were for and the use of each one.  When he had to make a trip to cut wood, or haul things to the garbage dump. I always went.  To me these were grand adventures and I loved to see new things and explore.  Even if the locations weren’t the most picturesque.

My dad was my friend, he was always the calm one.  When I would fight with mum, which became more and more in my teenage years, I could go for a walk with dad and he would give me peace, with a calmer viewpoint on things.  My dad and I walked many miles growing up. Dad was also a singer. No one really knew this outside of our home, but he was always singing, whistling or humming a tune.  He loved country music and knew words to many songs.  I didn’t realize how happy that made me feel until I went back through my memories and the house was almost lit up with his singing.  It was a happy time, we had a normal happy home growing up.  Middle class Canadian.

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The years went past, and I grew up got married and moved away.  I didn’t see dad as much anymore because we lived several provinces away. However, when we came to visit I always joined him in his walks.

It was when he was in his late 60’s that I noticed slight changes.  His memory wasn’t as good, and he would repeat things he had said.  My mum reported him doing odd things, like making cereal with water instead of milk like he had done all his life.  Tiny little flickers of change had begun.    When my husband Andrew and I went to visit them with our children the patience that was there when they were young seemed to be ebbing away, and his temper becoming shorter.

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My mum began to cover up for my dad.  She was, I believe, embarrassed and scared.  When we would direct questions at my dad, and my mum would answer for him.  He began to follow her around like a lost puppy, unsure of himself and losing all his confidence.

As things progressed he started to treat me like a neighbour, or a care worker.  I realized after it was because he was already beginning to forget who I was in his life.  I once told him I was his daughter and he said no his daughter was much younger than I was, he was going back in time. I adjusted to this fact slowly and painfully.  I had tears along the way, but no regrets, as dad and I had always shared a bond and I knew he truly loved me.  Now I had to take care of him as best as I could. I would read books and research as much as I could, hoping I could find a way to slow it down.

At this point mum and dad were living in assisted living.  Here that means it’s an apartment style home, with your meals made for you in a general eating area.  It’s a good idea if there are any health issues, as others are around to keep an eye out, also its good company for them to meet with other seniors. Within the year, dads Alzheimer’sgrew rapidly worse.   I remember getting a call from my mum that dad had been at the front desk of the building asking when the boat was coming to take him to his family.  It now appeared in his mind he was living at the 20-year-old stage.

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Around this time, my mum was hospitalized for dehydration.  What I haven’t told you yet is she was battling ovarian cancer.  She was the kind of person who didn’t let others know her feelings, and her fears.  My mum was stoic and strong until the end.  When she was in the hospital I said I would take my dad home.  Well, he came in the door, and within minutes started asking me where mum was, I told him and he got very angry at me.  He thought I was lying and I was for the first time scared of my dad.  This gentle person who never hit me my whole life, looked like he was going to hurt me.  I kept the kitchen island between us, until he calmed down, and I took him straight back to the hospital.  He did not take comfort in the love of his daughter, he didn’t recognize me.

Then one evening, my mum asked my dad to drive to the corner to get a newspaper….my dad did not return.  It was an evening in the middle of March in Manitoba.  There is still snow on the ground and the temperatures can vary from quite cold to just plain cold.  We drove around looking for my dad and calling him.  I remember my brother and I driving country roads in the dark yelling his name out of the car window.  My husband was also driving looking for him in the opposite direction.  I don’t know what my mum was thinking at this time.  I think she was so tired and overwhelmed.  She never told me if she broke down and cried, but I imagine the truth was beginning to set in with her.   We contacted the police, and then at 1 am we had no choice but to return home and wait for news.   At 7 am it came!   Dad had been found in a farmer’s field about 40 minutes away.  The farmer had been quite nervous about him, as my dad was found walking around saying he had to get home for dinner with the family.   The farmer had armed himself with an axe, because my dad was displaying odd behaviour.   Dad somehow drove 25 km in the wrong direction onto a dirt road and eventually ending up in a farmer’s field in the grass.  He had no coat just the shirt he had on. He was so lucky to be found alive, and that he didn’t hit anyone with his car.  It was clear to me at this point that I had to take over the decision making for dad, as mum could not do it.  I handed the RCMP his keys and called the emergency social worker.

Dad was placed into temporary housing within the week. This was so hard, but you know what the funny thing was, he didn’t seem to even understand.  He adjusted very quickly and started helping to push the other patients around in their wheelchairs.  We would go and visit him, and he seemed to enjoy the visits, but I don’t think he really knew it was me.  He began to whistle again, so I knew he was somewhat happy inside.   I did feel guilty, but his safety and the safety of others became paramount.   Dad lived the last year of his life in a nice small nursing home, that was near my house so that I could visit him often.  These visits weren’t for my dad anymore, as he did not recognize me at all.  They were for me, to love him and spend time with him, as I knew he had for me all those years when I was young.

Dad eventually passed away later that year from the natural progression of Alzheimer’s.  The battle was over, and it was time to let him go.  I prefer to remember my dad as the vibrant, creative, happy, loving person he was before the Alzheimer’saffected his brain and personality.

He was my dad, and I was his sunshine.

Why Is Thieves Oil So Special?

Thieves Essential Oil is THE ONE oil you need in your medicine cabinet to combat so many things for your well-being and in your home!dsc_0931.jpg

Thieves Oil has so many uses that you should never be without it and it’s the number one way to stay healthy in your home!

Thieves is an essential oil blend and one of the best-selling products available from Young Living. It’s a blend made with Cinnamon, Clove, Eucalyptus Radiata, Rosemary and Lemon essential oils. It’s one of my favorite essential oils. It smells like fresh-baked cookies (it’s spicy and earthy).

The benefits of Thieves oil stands the test of time. But just what is it about this blend, and these oils in particular, that make it so beneficial for your health?

Clove Essential Oil

The essential oil from this fragrant spice can help stop tumor growth and fight cancer cells, kill powerful bacteria such as E. coli, and even help reverse signs of liver damage.

Cinnamon Bark Essential Oil

Research has found that is anti-inflammatory, antimicrobial, antidiabetic, and can even help fight cancer and neurological diseases such as Parkinson’s and Alzheimer’s.

Eucalyptus Essential Oil

The active ingredient in it is proven to be effective against many powerful viruses and bacteria, such as tuberculosis and methicillin-resistant Staphylococcus aureus (MRSA). It also stimulates your immune system and can help relieve respiratory conditions such as asthma.

Rosemary Essential Oil

Rosemary contains powerful compounds that can help prevent neural cell death (in the case of neurological diseases), protect against brain inflammation and also lend its strong antibacterial and anticancer properties.

Lemon Essential Oil

Lemon oil improves digestion, reduces kidney and liver damage, and acts as a powerful disinfectant. Many of the antioxidant compounds in lemon, including limonene, are thought to be responsible for its wide range of benefits.

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How To Use Thieves Essential Oil?

  1. Apply 1-3 drops around cuts or open wounds to prevent infection and promote healing.
  2. Mix with a tablespoon of water, gargle and swallow for a sore throat.
  3. Apply to upper chest and throat with V-6 Massage Oil for chest tightness.
  4. Put a drop on your thumb and apply to the roof of your mouth for a headache.
  5. Put 4-8 drops in a capsule with olive oil and swallow daily for longevity.
  6. For skin blemishes, take internally and apply to the skin diluted with V-6 Massage Oil.
  7. Put a couple drops directly on the soles of your feet to protect you from colds and flu.
  8. Diffuse in your home to keep the yuk countdown.
  9. Breathe in the vapors when you have lung congestion.
  10. Use to clean pet cages, creating a healthier environment for them.
  11. Add a few drops to your dishwasher for cleaner dishes.
  12. Add to your laundry cycle for cleaner clothes.
  13. Add several drops to your mop water for cleaner floors.
  14. Mix 8-12 drops with water in a 4 oz. spray bottle to repel insects on your flowers and plants.
  15. Use to dissolve the gummy adhesive on price labels.
  16. Apply to bee and wasp stings to neutralize the toxin and relieve the pain.
  17. Apply to gums to keep gums healthy.
  18. Apply orally to maintain healthy teeth.
  19. Apply a drop or two to gums and teeth for pain relief from toothaches.
  20. Diffuse 15-30 minutes daily in homes or business to solve smells and germs.
  21. Add 1 drop to orange juice and drink to reduce phlegm and congestion.
  22. Apply to broken bones or joints with V-6 for pain relief and to heal.
  23. Put a drop in your cup of tea for flavor and to maintain health.
  24. Put on the tip of your tongue to help you stop smoking.
  25. Put on cold sores with V-6 to help heal.
  26. For warts: apply topically, inhale and take 2-3 drops in a capsule to make them disappear.
  27. Rub on sore joints with V-6 Massage Oil to relieve pain.
  28. Drink a few drops in water or juice every three hours to stop a cold.
  29. Place a drop in a glass of water every day to prevent yuks.
  30. Rub 2 drops on the bottoms of children’s feet for protection before school every day.
  31. Diffuse in the house as your children come home from school every day.
  32. Mix 2-4 drops with Coconut Oil and rub on daily for relief of shingle pain.
  33. Apply a drop around a wound of a cat or dog to clear it up.
  34. Diffuse in the home or office to stimulate a cheerful mood.
  35. Diffuse in the office to increase concentration and work efficiency.
  36. Diffuse in your place of business to ward off the germs.
  37. Diffuse in the classroom to reduce student sickness and absenteeism.
  38. Put a few drops in your carpet steamer to disinfect carpet.
  39. Mix 1-2 drops with honey or Blue Agave in a teaspoon for cough relief.
  40. Breathe and apply for sinus headaches.
  41. Put a drop on a pimple to make it shrink and disappear.
  42. For the loss of voice, put a drop under your tongue with V-6.
  43. Inhale for the relief of allergy symptoms.
  44. Take a vegetable capsule full every day for relief of illness symptoms.
  45. Carry a bottle on every flight to protect you from germs on the plane.
  46. Put a few drops on a tissue, place near the heat/AC vents of a hotel to rid it of airborne germs.
  47. Apply one drop on an infected wound of a cat or dog to clear it up.
  48. Mix several drops with baking soda to clean bathtubs.
  49. Apply to the toes and feet to combat foot fungus.
  50. Apply with V-6 Massage Oil to poison ivy rashes to relieve the itch.

 

Source:  Paleohacks, All things mama, Don’t mess with mama